New yorker article on dating
“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair.
“I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.” He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.
“It’s like testing the waters — and if you’re a good dancer it’s an attractive quality.” She also loved that the night really could end with dancing, instead of being expected to take things to the bedroom: “Whether you have sex or don’t doesn’t seem to affect the relationship” she says.
“It’s not a stigma if you wait a few dates.” Jonathan, who moved to Jakarta, Indonesia after living in the East Village in 2013, says moving to a place that was predominantly Muslim made for some challenging cultural differences in dating.
But especially for women of a certain age, men “are looking for someone much younger.” “In London, age and stage are important,” she says, adding that men there want women who are in the same phase of their lives as they are.